Let's write about relationship and love

Talent. Singing. Drawing. Some people were born gifted in certain things. Some people need to go to class and practice to gain the skills in drawing or singing etc.

Same goes to relationship. Some people were naturally know how to love themselves. Naturally letting go their losses. Naturally empathetic. Naturally good in expressing feelings. Naturally confident like idgafabikwidawidd haha translate that. But some people need to experience many things and even go to classes or therapy just to learn how to love themselves as well as loving their partner.

Now, do you know when you are in need of class or therapy? Well, you need to be in a situation first. Such as.. a situation where people belittle on you. So, only with that circumstances you will go through emotions like self hatred (for people who are not naturally born with self love skills). Then, you will trapped into your own safe mind cave and think a lot. Okay. Then, what will you do about it? Are you going to let your emotions beating you? If you are not, of course you will find a way to get out from that negative thoughts. And now you will decide to reach out to anything such as self love influencer or even therapist.

Okay. As a Muslims, I bet you will do share your feelings to Allah first and then cry to Him, pray harder and harder. But, here where you went wrong.. you just didn't do anything after praying. Like, you know Covid-19 is happening.. you just pray but didn't take precautions. Or like story of sahabah where you just left your camel without tying it because you think Allah is watching and you didn't do any efforts to secure the camel. Prophet Muhammad saw then corrected him by saying 'Tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah' and in Quran it has been stated that 'Allah will not change the situation of people until they change what is inside themselves '

So, what do we do after praying? We read and learn. Okay. I am not saying that our emotions or sadness is invalid. This is just my suggestions on how to utilize love beyond what people usually do. Thus, whenever you are ready to learn this kind of self love properly only then you encouraged to use my suggestions.

What I have learned from this phase of my life is if loving someone else doesn't inspire you to love yourself.. you are doing it wrong. Because when you love yourself, only then you will know what exactly you want deeply. When you love yourself, only then you will know the status of your current choice. Why did you stay? Why you choose him or her? Where is your direction? Only when you love yourself, you will know whether staying or leaving is the right answer for you. If staying will nurture you to love yourself even more, then.. you know what you need to do. And only when you love yourself. You can forgive yourself.

How to express your love in a very feminine way?

Have you encountered moments where your heart feel so much love?

Where you tend to be so expressive with words? Actions? and everythinglah!

But, not all of the time your partner is ready to receive such a loaded of expression.

You know why? Expression often bring along some expectations.

Expectations, overwhelmed our partner.

In feminine energy world, it is likely makes you getting involve and get in touch with your feelings.

Like, you can avoid being extremely expressive by enjoying the moments.

Some of the words that you can use are:-

a) Right now, I am feeling so happy and so in love with him. (by this time some of you will be triggered to let your partner know) nope, do not do that yet. Just tell yourself.
I am going to enjoy this feeling. Smile and accept that you are in love. It is not that I forbid you to express it. But, if you already express it so much and wanna take a rest ..hence.. here you go.

b) Pray For God sake. Pray for their happiness, well being, peace  and pray that they are in a good condition =)

You can express your love anytime but law of attraction is real. In Islam, Allah clearly said that with human. The more you go and ask for them, the more they will pull away from you but Allah is not like that. The more you go and ask for Allah, the closer Allah will be with you but the thing is when you are close to Allah. You will be tested cause He loves you. I'm sorry. But that is the truth. However, Allah wants you to make it. So, good luck. InsyaAllah everything will be fine.

It is also a sunnah to express your love towards your loved ones but the truth is moderation is they key to the peace of life. I mean, excessive is not always good.

In a normal world, my friends would say don't text so much. Do not be so attached to a man. And it is true. Happiness should not be depended all the time on anyone. We just need to accept that happiness is a good feeling and it is temporary good feeling and be thankful for the person who makes efforts to make you smile and happy. Yes, people can make you happy but they are no God to give you happiness all the time to you. Do you get me? Hahaha.. I hope so. I mean they are human. Do not expected them to be the happiness machine. So why do we need to be with someone who makes us happy? Haha. Because happiness is a good feelinglah. Yes. Sure. They will make you happy but also there is time where they will not do anything because they are human same like us. Maybe, they choose to sleep all day or to do something else like joining the charity and so on. Thus, you also have space to do other things :)

Whatever it is. It is up to you to do whatever you feels right. Xoxo not Gossip girl.

Whispers but then heavens?

Every individual in this world is not excepted from bad whispers except for those whom Allah protected.

And desires. Desires divided by two main categories. Legal and illegal. Now, the legality depends on faith or stances of each individuals. Hence, it produces different categories of truth and different categories of right things to do. But one thing for sure, there are many ways to go to heaven.

Talking about heavens, they are also has been classified into several famous group. Which is Allah's heaven, other creation's heaven such as Dajjal heaven, freethinker heaven that is the world itself which prone to say there is no heaven and imaginary heaven that is created by human.

Allah's heaven is clearly for the sinners who repented. The repented sinners. If you have no sins at all, you are no human. It is just that the sins that we did, are too categorized into two. The small and the big one.

Dajjal's heaven is clearly for those who are worshiping the anti-Christ with or without their consciousness. So, if you happen to bump into songs or anything that looks like bias to anti-Christ agenda. With all our might, let's avoid it. Its heaven is clearly for those who did not return back to Allah. That's the key.

From other religion's perspective, there is heaven from the other faith. They believe in many gods. They have their own steps and guidance to reach their heaven. To them, with their ways they can reach the heaven. During Prophet Muhammad s.a.w lifetimes, some of his uncles worshiped Al-Lat and not Allah. Hence, surah al-Kafirun revealed to them. I do not worship what you worship. (109:2)

Freethinker's heaven basically refers to no heaven at all. They believe that they are created to born and die in this world only. They do not believe in God. They believe that their good deeds and bad deeds will be paid in this natural life cycle. They believe life is only once and after death they cannot do anything. Their life stops at death. They tend to do what is right according to humanity. They use sciece to prove the in-existence of God. They proved to themselves that they are content with themselves. They do not believe that they are created by creator. They tend to believe that they are naturally or just pop out in their mother's womb. 

Imaginary heaven is the heaven that I too sometimes create haha. I mean. It is moments where I get high in music or any entertainment thingy. Like for foodies, Kg.Baru is heaven for some. 

One maybe encounter, am I on the right path? Again, it depends on your faith. What type of heaven do you want to be in and not out? 

*pardon my grammar, I really need to write before my ideas gone. 

Prayer

I want my partner to be successful.