Talent. Singing. Drawing. Some people were born gifted in certain things. Some people need to go to class and practice to gain the skills in drawing or singing etc.
So, what do we do after praying? We read and learn. Okay. I am not saying that our emotions or sadness is invalid. This is just my suggestions on how to utilize love beyond what people usually do. Thus, whenever you are ready to learn this kind of self love properly only then you encouraged to use my suggestions.
What I have learned from this phase of my life is if loving someone else doesn't inspire you to love yourself.. you are doing it wrong. Because when you love yourself, only then you will know what exactly you want deeply. When you love yourself, only then you will know the status of your current choice. Why did you stay? Why you choose him or her? Where is your direction? Only when you love yourself, you will know whether staying or leaving is the right answer for you. If staying will nurture you to love yourself even more, then.. you know what you need to do. And only when you love yourself. You can forgive yourself.
Same goes to relationship. Some people were naturally know how to love themselves. Naturally letting go their losses. Naturally empathetic. Naturally good in expressing feelings. Naturally confident like idgafabikwidawidd haha translate that. But some people need to experience many things and even go to classes or therapy just to learn how to love themselves as well as loving their partner.
Now, do you know when you are in need of class or therapy? Well, you need to be in a situation first. Such as.. a situation where people belittle on you. So, only with that circumstances you will go through emotions like self hatred (for people who are not naturally born with self love skills). Then, you will trapped into your own safe mind cave and think a lot. Okay. Then, what will you do about it? Are you going to let your emotions beating you? If you are not, of course you will find a way to get out from that negative thoughts. And now you will decide to reach out to anything such as self love influencer or even therapist.
Okay. As a Muslims, I bet you will do share your feelings to Allah first and then cry to Him, pray harder and harder. But, here where you went wrong.. you just didn't do anything after praying. Like, you know Covid-19 is happening.. you just pray but didn't take precautions. Or like story of sahabah where you just left your camel without tying it because you think Allah is watching and you didn't do any efforts to secure the camel. Prophet Muhammad saw then corrected him by saying 'Tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah' and in Quran it has been stated that 'Allah will not change the situation of people until they change what is inside themselves '
So, what do we do after praying? We read and learn. Okay. I am not saying that our emotions or sadness is invalid. This is just my suggestions on how to utilize love beyond what people usually do. Thus, whenever you are ready to learn this kind of self love properly only then you encouraged to use my suggestions.
What I have learned from this phase of my life is if loving someone else doesn't inspire you to love yourself.. you are doing it wrong. Because when you love yourself, only then you will know what exactly you want deeply. When you love yourself, only then you will know the status of your current choice. Why did you stay? Why you choose him or her? Where is your direction? Only when you love yourself, you will know whether staying or leaving is the right answer for you. If staying will nurture you to love yourself even more, then.. you know what you need to do. And only when you love yourself. You can forgive yourself.